That is the advice actress Neetu Chandra gives to men as she talks about the things men should know about women.In it, she recounts the surprising truths she learned about men after interviewing more than 1,000 of them. I had the opportunity to interview Shaunti for our radio broadcast, Home Word with Jim Burns. In our discussion, we spoke about 10 things guys wish women knew about men.I can only observe. As a husband, I often feel helpless. Like I'm just some cheerleader on the sidelines, hoping everything turns out OK. I often wish there were some way I could help her more than I do.
1.Keep your promises. We like simple courtesies. Be on time, do whatever you said you were going to, and if things have changed, muster up the courage to tell us upfront.
2.Sometimes we just want to eat a damn bar of chocolate without having to break off a piece for a bunch of adorable vultures. I mean, can’t a woman get a Jamba Juice without a constant barrage of requests for sips? Enjoying a smoothie without kid floaties should be a right, not a privilege. When we’re alone, it's ours. It’s all ours!!
3.When men feel their wives desire them sexually, it has a profound effect on the rest of their lives. It gives them an increasing sense of confidence and well-being that carries over into every other area of his life. The flipside of this coin also carries a profoundly negative affect.
4.Loud women are annoying, especially if they’re in your ear or screaming at you on the phone. Now take a minute to imagine yourself in the same room with a woman on her period having major mood swings; how long do you think you’ll last before you start to find her unattractive?
5.While pregnant, Mel often describes herself as: Fat, bloated, and spotted (near the end of her pregnancy she always develops little red splotches on her face and neck). Obviously she doesn't feel beautiful while pregnant, even though I still think that she is. She needs constant reassurance. So when she is pregnant, I often make it a point to tell her how beautiful she is (in person and text message).
6.I like to think that I know what's best for my wife, but that really is a ridiculous assumption. I need to ask her this simple question more: What do you need right now?
7.We like to talk. This does not mean we are asking for your opinion or that we want you to magically fix all our problems. Mostly, we just need to vent. And we love it so much when you really hear us. Listen cos that's all you need to do.
8.Defend Your Lady
Against what, you ask? Anything and everything.
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Sometimes children want to be helpers which provides parents a wonderful opportunity to teach them chores, generosity and responsibility. But sometimes, a woman just wants to get the damn dishes done so she can relax and move on with her life! Having “help” pushing our carts is really overrated since we're far less likely to clip an old lady's heels or crash into a display that will topple over in front of everyone at Cost Co.
The truth is, we get crap done when we're alone. We get crap done real good.
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True, many men appear to be unromantic clods, but it doesn't mean that they want to be that way! Men want to be romantic, but they just doubt their ability to pull it off. They are plagued by internal hesitations, perceiving the risk of humiliation and failure as too high. Wives can do a great deal to increase their husbands' confidence in their romantic skills through encouragement and redefining what romance looks like. For example, a wife may balk when her husband asks her to go along to the hardware store, but it's likely that he's asking because he sees it as a time they can get away as a couple and hang out together. What's not romantic about that?
